Let Them Leave You Feeling Healed
Let Them Leave You Feeling Healed
Imagine for a moment that you are receiving a Reiki session from a healer.
You sink deeply into the relaxed meditative state, and are drifting into a state of peace and bliss.
You’re aware that deep inner healing is taking place, but you are also not traumatized by it or experiencing any discomfort.
As you relax more deeply, you start to experience beautiful visions and colors.
Your awareness of your body melts away and before you know it, the session has ended.
You stretch and yawn, coming slowly back to the present moment feeling refreshed and healed.
As you open your eyes, your Reiki practitioner is near you, waiting to discuss the session.
Maybe you want to share what you felt and experienced, or maybe you want to just savor the experience and allow it to be exactly as it was without analysis.
Excitedly, they begin to tell you about how the experience was for them – all the yuck and stuck energies they felt clearing, all the negative emotions and sensations they felt, how the energy was congested here or here, how this chakra is “blocked”, how the energy is not flowing properly.
Your heart sinks.
Just a few moments ago you were feeling blissful and relaxed and healed.
Now you can’t stop thinking about how “wrong” you are, how messed up your energy must be.
Energy flows where attention goes, and soon you are buying into every thing they told you, imagining problems where previously you had only felt graceful flow and relaxation.
As you continue to think about these things, something truly unfortunate happens. You are a creative being and your thoughts have power. As you worry about these “wrongnesses” that were communicated to you, you start to feed them energy and create them.
Even if the Reiki practitioner had helped facilitate clearing those energies during the session, by drawing your attention back to them they have inadvertently caused you to re-manifest them in your life.
Definitely not so good, right?
So what could have been done differently here?
1) As Reiki Practitioners yourselves, be mindful of when you start to feel like you are “HEALING” the client. That is not your job.
You can facilitate healing by allowing the Divine Energy to flow for the client, and the client will take what they need in that moment to heal themselves.
What a person needs at any given moment is beyond our limited understanding, but not beyond the Divine Intelligence that guides Reiki.
The best Reiki Practitioners simply get out of the way, and allow themselves to be the flute that Reiki flows through.
As Diana Faltin says,
“Intention is the initial, directed thought that flickers across the mind – often before there is conscious awareness that the thinking process has begun.
When working with energy, the base of this energy needs to be clear. At the base of energy is intent. Once the intent is crystal clear, the energy can move freely through the body.
Healing intentions are most effective when there are no limitations and one gives over to the flow of the Universe (no ego.) Remember, a practitioner cannot heal, that is the client’s responsibility. We do not judge, rationalize or diagnose, we simply let go and allow the energy to flow freely. It is not about working out what is wrong, making things happen or informing someone how they should or shouldn’t live their lives. It is the act of not interfering and leaving the tick-tock of your busy thoughts alone.”
2) When the session concludes, we must remember as Practitioners that it is the CLIENT’S experience.
We can ask some questions like, “How are you feeling?” and “How was your experience?” to see how willing they are to discuss details.
Some clients will simply want to savor the beauty of their experience without discussing it too much, or perhaps their experience was deeply personal. Respect that, and let them lead.
If they ASK about your insights or experiences, then you may take that as a cue to share what you experienced – but ONLY in a positive, empowering and affirming way.
Your words have power and they will be trusting what you say. Understand that, and let them leave feeling healed.
Sometimes clients will ask you for details like, “Was my energy really bad?” or “Did you notice any really gross energy?” etc.
Again, use your words wisely. When we are practicing Reiki we are not focusing on what is not right about a person. Instead, we are connecting with the Great Bright Light within ourselves, and holding space for them to reunite with that Great Bright Light within themselves as well.
You can answer by saying something like, “I was not worried about what was wrong when I was working. Instead I was connecting with the parts of you that are already perfect, whole and complete.”
If they press for more details, you can address their question in a positive way by saying, “I noticed a lot of energy flowing when my hands were ______” and then turning the question around and asking, “What did you notice?”
3) This is sacred work. Honor the vulnerable state they are in.
When we share Reiki with someone, they are allowing us to connect with their energy in the most intimate way.
We may become aware of really difficult or painful things that are connected to the area we are currently sharing Reiki with.
We may experience the client’s emotions, or even see a glimpse of their memories.
Understand that Reiki will communicate to that person exactly what they need to know, and that the shifts in perception and behavior will follow naturally when the person is truly ready to release what is creating the issue and integrate another layer of healing.
You do not need to tell them.
If your intuition strongly guides you to share your specific insights with the client then you can communicate them in a way that is empowering and affirming.
Allow Reiki to flow, trust it to do what is necessary and trust that the work it is doing is beyond our limited ability to gauge what is required.
Let Reiki do it’s work, and let your client leave feeling healed.